job jumper tip #5: take a break

I’ve started out the job jumper tips talking about WIDD files, being a discriminating networker and remembering it’s not all about the money and leaving on your own terms. This week, we’re taking a break – so to speak.

Tip #5: take a break.

When was the last time you took a break from working? Not a vacation, but a complete break – a pause between jobs. One of the greatest advantages to job jumping is the ability to take a break between jobs. In today’s busy world, even a vacation is filled with emails, voicemail and “just checking in.” Part of this is due to insecurity (people are afraid that while they are out on vacation they’ll be perceived as “not hard working” or slackers) but part of it is just the inevitable blending of career and personal time. The only time most people are ever separated from the need to stay connected to their office is when they switch jobs.

In my pre-consulting career I took anywhere from one week to four months off between jobs. That gap has become longer and longer each time I’ve switched jobs, with the exception of my most recent switch to consulting. Once I switched to consulting I realized I could actually take breaks between clients, so my “break time” could be even greater. Last year I took off more than two months between my three consulting projects.

Your first reaction might be to say “I can’t do that, I have responsibilities!” or “I have bills to pay!” Many people – even though they may not admit it – are afraid of that time off. “How can I explain wanting to take off four weeks before starting my new job?” Americans are particularly concerned about the appearance of laziness. The idea of telling a new employer that you want to wait one month before starting strikes most people as madness. The paycheck-to-paycheck lifestyle also causes some nervousness; people are worried that missing one paycheck may mean they won’t be able to pay their bills. While this may be true for some people, for many people it’s just an excuse to avoid giving up luxuries they don’t need in exchange for free time that terrifies them. If you are careful with your spending, you’ll be amazed at how your expenses plummet when you aren’t going to work (no dry cleaning, no lunches out, no expensive gas tank fill-er-ups, no rushed Chinese take-out dinners).

So why should you take a break? Let me give you a few reasons:

  1. Rest. The almost-alien concept of resting is hard to absorb for many people, but imagine just having a few weeks to do nothing. Sleep late, drink some coffee, go for a walk or play catch outside. Imagine no cell phones ringing, nobody calling you for an “emergency” – you can recharge yourself for your new job.
  2. Clear the to-do list. Even though you might leap directly into your new job, your personal to-do list won’t go away. Need to see the doctor? Take your car in for service? Clean the gutters? Imagine if you took a few weeks off between jobs to completely clear as much of your personal to-do list as you could. The first few weeks at your new job – a critical time to impress people – you can be a whirlwind of productivity, a warrior of focus. You won’t have to worry about asking your new boss off to go to the dentist.
  3. Explore other interests. There are few times in your life where you can really explore non-work related interests with your full attention. I started this blog while taking five weeks off between clients. I never would have done it during the normal day-to-day busy routine of commuting, working and taking care of house chores and my family.
  4. Take a real vacation. Here’s an idea: instead of a hurried weekend in Florida, take a week to go somewhere and really experience it. Pick a random city in America or Canada and explore it. Take the train. Not every vacation needs to be a sprint to the finish line.
  5. Network. You will be amazed how well people respond to networking when they find out you are between jobs but you already have your next job set. Go to some professional assocation meetings, or have a few business lunches. If people know you’re not trolling for a job, they’ll be happier to see you.
  6. Learn. Taking a break is the perfect opportunity to brush up on your professional education. Take a short course, or buy a few books on a subject that interests you. Don’t assume that learning should stop with college.
  7. Spend time with your family. I know it’s a terrifying idea for many career-focused individuals, but spend time with your family. Play with the kids. You may find it more rewarding than working, believe it or not.

So don’t worry about the money, or the appearance of laziness, or the nervousness about filling those long days with activities. Scale back on some non-essentials for a few weeks (for example, eat at home!) and make the best use of your free time during your next job-jumping break. Remember that a work-life balance means devoting some time to life, too.

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(photo by Joe Shlabotnik)

15 comments

  • I think the biggest hurdle to doing this is what everyone else would think of it. It’s seen so negatively for a person to not be at work at their desk everyday by 7 a.m. and home at 6 p.m. If you don’t go to work, you’re lazy. It wasn’t between jobs, but over the summer I made hubby take 3 weeks unpaid off his job (how nice that he was able!) for all of our sanity. It really does make a difference. He got to relax and he went back to work refreshed. I couldn’t believe the negative comments we got about it from friends and family. I think we convince ourselves that we can’t possibly take time off but in reality it’s a lot more doable than people think with a little planning. And who cares what others think when you’re soaking up sun and drinking a beer while they’re at work anyway 🙂

  • Great post. I’ve no problems with job jumping, but this is one thing I’ve never been able to do in my professional life because of work permit/visa issues. Until now. You can be sure I’ll be taking a looong break next time I move. Appreciate the mentions of “relax” and “spend time with family” …. it’s very important to fight the cult of productivity every so often.

    Emily, your story is quite amazing to me. If I were to take significant amount of time off work my family would congratulate me – and probably be a little jealous. The difference between US and Euro family members, perhaps!

  • We have become a society of human doing and not human being. Good post.

  • This comes at a good time for me, because I’ve decided to take a break for a few months whenever my current job happens to end. Money is really the only issue, as I don’t feel the need to project an image of non-laziness. I think I was meant to be European.

  • Some people just don’t know how to relax and what to do with themselves if they take a vacation, let alone sabatical. My dad is one of those people. My mom has to book a vacation just to force him to relax, as long as he is not at home and have no choice but rest and do nothing. Makes such a big difference in his overall health and even his physical appearance (looks much better, gains weight and looks relaxed).

  • I’d recommend this to anyone who has the financial backing to do it. I was “rightsized” a few years back & because of my age, level of job, etc. I received a year of salary & insurance. It was shortly after 9/11 and there was nobody but nobody hiring us recruiting management type folks.

    SO, I decided that looking for a job was useless for a few months anyhow and since I was living in CA at the time I read, I gardened, I took my dogs to the beach, I went to museums, art fairs, shopped, visited family and most importantly I rested. I agree with you that rest/relaxation may take some practice in our “booked to the millisecond” life but it gives you a whole different perspective of life.

    Sleeping in was the best part!

  • …though I would hesitate picking a ‘random’ city in Canada to visit, this post is great. Almost makes me want to switch jobs just for the mentioned benefits.

    Almost.

  • p.s. – i am aware the random city was just to add to the point… 😉

  • I fully agree and I intended to live on a lake house for at least two weeks after my old job. But I was so happy to get the job (and leave my old one) that I didn’t want to “start on the wrong foot” by waiting that long (two weeks notice, then two weeks to enjoy my time). I had the money but I just didn’t follow through. I chickened out and who knows when I’ll get the chance to do it again.

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  • The Four Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss is almost parallel to the idea of job jumping… he calls taking a break a mini-retirement. I’m taking my post-military time off in Spain for at least a month.

  • @Drew: True, although from reading Ferriss’ website I’m not sure he actually ever takes a break in the way I envision taking a break! He seems to advocate continually “working” passively even when not working actively.

    Not that his idea is bad at all – I am trying to work on passive income so I’m working-while-not-really-working – but he doesn’t seem to be into full stops.

    And enjoy Spain! My wife and I spent a couple of weeks there back in 2004 and we absolutely loved it. The Gold Coast was terrific, even though we were warned it was a tourist trap. Barcelona is great, too.

  • This inspired me. My husband and I are both self-employed. His current contract runs out tomorrow, and while he has several leads, no sure placement yet. I was quite anxious that he find something right away so we didn’t have to dip into savings. Just sent him an email and told him not to rush it.

    I’m so focused on saving for retirement, I sometimes forget to enjoy our flexible, self-employed life now.

  • @Jaime: I’m so glad it inspired you! You are completely right – remembering that life happens now, not in the future, is a big key to happiness.