who is the hero of your life?

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While watching the movie Hero I realized that I had a belief that might – or might not – be shared by everyone else. It may sound bizarre.  If you imagine your life as a movie (or maybe a miniseries, we are talking about a long film), who is the hero of your movie?  You, or someone else?

Your natural tendency is to view yourself as the central figure in your story, your life. The only exception might be through a loved one – a spouse, partner, child, anyone significant to you.  But even though I might think of my children as being central to my life now, I don’t view them as the “heroes” of my life.  I still – selfishly or stupidly – view myself as the “hero” of my own life.  I am the one who causes things to happen, who causes things to happen to those close to me, and who can affect the outcomes of events in my life.

Imagining yourself as the hero of your own life is fine as long as you are succeeding, and unbearably difficult the moment you are failing. I wouldn’t expect the opposite approach to be appealing, either – imagining someone else as the hero of your life must either put an incredible strain on the other person or make you feel somewhat helpless.  Yet I know people like this.  I am quite sure the hero of my grandmother’s life, for example, was my grandfather.  My grandfather, a dominant personality if ever I’ve seen one, was a strong and central figure in his family. Maybe that’s just typical of couples where one is dominant; I wouldn’t know, since Bubelah and I are certainly not in the least imbalanced; neither of us seems to feel dominant (yet I still do not view anyone except myself as hero of my own life).

So who is the hero of your life? Is it better if it’s you, or someone else?  Does it matter?  And can it be someone completely unrelated?  Christ, for example, might be the hero of many people’s lives.  I would guess that the identification of the real hero in your life probably says a lot about who you are and how you act.

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  • http://www.thewriterscoin.com Writer's Coin

    I can see people coming down on you for sounding selfish, but my answer is also me. It has to be. No one else in your life has more of an impact on who you are and what happens to you than yourself.

    That's my opinion, anyway.

    Besides, don't they say that even when you have kids, that you're spouse should come before them? For the sake of the marriage? So if something like your child, which came from a physical part of you, isn't even number one, then it has to be yourself.

  • Ashley @ Wide Open Wallet

    Very interesting. I have to say that my hero is also myself. But my husband is right there too. I would say 60% me; 40% my husband.

    I wonder if women are more likely to put someone else in the place of hero than men. It seems like men would have a harder time seeing someone else as their hero. Ya know?

  • Tom

    Can't say I have a hero … maybe my mom?
    I definitely think it's a great idea to have one – someone to aspire to.

  • richerandslimmer.com

    Wow, I have never thought about it this way before. I am the hero of my life, and I realize, with it comes the responsibility to do well by myself. This is good motivation to continuing my personal finance and health blog and keeping myself accountable for my fiscal and physical well being.

  • Curmudgeon

    Popeye the Sailor Man, at least growing up, but still a credible hero today. He is a master of contradictions. Incredibly strong yet with fatal weaknesses. Kind, polite, and a classic gentleman, yet naive and subject to being hurt. Often wrong, but fundamentally right.

  • http://www.funadvice.com Dara

    I can't specifically say that it's “better” for you if you are the central figure in your story…but it would definitely signify that you are not egocentric, for one thing. I think it would take a special person to think outside the box enough to have someone else star in their movie.

  • http://site.shareyournumber.com ajc

    This is a GREAT question BrBl and an easy one to answer, as I just told this person that they were my hero a couple of months before I returned from USA to Aus:

    It's my grandmother … she's now 96 years old, and finally in a nursing home because her legs don't works so well, her hearing is not great (but she doesn't wear hearing aids), but she is still sharp as …

    She's my hero because she saved her entire family during WWII from the Nazis … not once, but multiple times – because of her actions, the family survived almost intact (she 'only' lost one brother).

    When she arrived in Australia she became one of Australia's first traveling saleswomen (in a time well before 'equal rights' for women). For a woman of wealth ad privilege prior to the war, nothing was beneath her both before and after the war to help her get the family back on its feet.

    She was the financial lifeline for everybody in the family – including me, when I needed it the most – even when she had nothing (at least in cash) left for herself.

    As to my own 'movie' … she definitely acted as inspiration; but, all the other 'actors' (incl. me and my wife) helped, too.

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    “Your natural tendency is to view yourself as the central figure in your story, your life.” , read this thoughts on this blog.. honestly i dont even watch the series of hero. but i believe this is a great tv series. ok.. the words i qouted made me think of something. the reason why I exist in this world. very well deep but can caught each everyones thought.. nice post..

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    I am a hero in my own way because I make it a point not to be a problem to our society.