However, I grew up in an era when voyeurism meant a very specific thing, and was both extremely inappropriate and in some ways illegal. And you know, it is much more interesting and satisfying finding out something about someone else if they volunteer it as a part of conversation, rather than by visiting a few websites. There is give and take that lets all parties build a relationship.

So I applaud your setting limits. You may know that what I do for a living is rather public (just googled my real name and found 100K hits), which is one reason I am anonymous here. A while back that got me into some difficulty with an employer who believed I was also doing work for their competition. There is no good answer here, but we have to strive for is a balance we think we can live with.

However, I grew up in an era when voyeurism meant a very specific thing, and was both extremely inappropriate and in some ways illegal. And you know, it is much more interesting and satisfying finding out something about someone else if they volunteer it as a part of conversation, rather than by visiting a few websites. There is give and take that lets all parties build a relationship.

So I applaud your setting limits. You may know that what I do for a living is rather public (just googled my real name and found 100K hits), which is one reason I am anonymous here. A while back that got me into some difficulty with an employer who believed I was also doing work for their competition. There is no good answer here, but we have to strive for is a balance we think we can live with.