Comments on: how to be a good partner to a stay-at-home spouse

By: PearlandMom

PearlandMom — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 05:02:35 +0000

This post is excellent! I am emailing it to my husband after typing this. The points about he cell oops now its the Iphone rings true. Actually I never thought of the drinks out with the co-workers in that way, but that's a great point as well.

By: PearlandMom

PearlandMom — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 22:02:35 +0000

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Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:26:12 +0000

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By: sai

sai — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 07:20:04 +0000

I've come across this article by chance, when browsing aimlessly.

What a wonderful article, especially since it reonates so aptly with my present situation. I am in India. I work while my wife is a stay-at-home mom. Every single word that is written here is relevant to us. The tips here are excellent and they point to all the mistakes I have been making in my life vitiating our family relationship. The mistakes like :-

1. I'm too exhausted. Because I work, I'm entitled to relax once I reach home. Dead wrong.
2. I grudgingly do chores. And ofcourse keep score. See how good I am that I help whenever I can, inspite of my workload!
3. Never even thought of me-time for my wife.

By: Ways for Stay at Home Moms to irritate their husbands upon their arrival home | How to be a woman

Sun, 02 Nov 2008 18:19:06 +0000

By: bripblap

bripblap — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 23:13:09 +0000

Thanks Heather!

By: Heather

Heather — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 21:44:01 +0000

GREAT post! You really got me thinking. I'm going to make sure my husband reads this. Great blog as well.

By: Angela

Angela — Sat, 03 May 2008 19:09:42 +0000

As a stay-at-home spouse, all I have to say is, THANK YOU! For once I feel normal for getting mad at my husband for doing the things you mentioned.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 20:34:08 +0000

All very good tips, my husband’s pretty good about a lot of these, but some… Although the number one tip I would have added is “No Honey-Do Lists.” The worst thing he can do is hand me a list of the stuff he wants done in the morning, as if I have nothing else to do all day. Of course, it works the other way, too. When he gets home from work I don’t drop a baby in his lap and tell him to take out the trash. Acknowledge that your spouse is a grown-up, and you’ve both worked hard all day. A little patience and communication goes a long way. And to MOTHEROFBUN: My husband used to think I had no job. One Saturday he took over and handled our (then) one child by himself. He was passed out on the couch by 8 p.m. I haven’t heard another remark about my “easy” days.

By: Steve (Brip Blap)

Steve (Brip Blap) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 17:31:02 +0000

@wanda: it’s not a dumb question, but I can’t answer it – it’s just an image I grabbed from Flickr, so it might be fake. I would not be surprised if it was real, though – in the later stages of pregnancy (my wife is due tomorrow) the belly skin is stretched very thin!

By: !wanda

!wanda — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 16:43:32 +0000

This is a dumb question, but is that second picture real?

By: The Simple Dollar » The Simple Dollar Weekly Roundup: Twitter and Media Appearances Edition

Wed, 30 Apr 2008 14:04:40 +0000

[...] How to Be a Good Partner to a Stay-At-Home Spouse Some of these apply to a spouse working from home as well, which is what our situation more or less is. For example, I usually stop working for about half an hour before my wife gets home so that when she comes in the door (often with kids in tow), I’m in “parenting” mode and she can go decompress for a while (usually in on the couch feeding our infant daughter). Find a routine that works for both of you and talk about anything that makes either one of you uncomfortable. (@ brip blap) [...]

By: Steve (Brip Blap)

Steve (Brip Blap) — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:31:52 +0000

@Trent: Absolutely, and we’re by no means perfect on this one, either. Plus it assumes that there’s (a) some “price” to the chores – does washing the dishes “equal” taking out the garbage? and (b) taking care of the kids is somehow equivalent to the chores. It shouldn’t feel that way but as a parent I’ve found that there are certainly plenty of times when sitting through an extended grumpy bedtime session with a toddler feels like work.

Of course with my (semi-temporary) move to problogging, doing the chores just got a bit easier

By: Trent Hamm

Trent Hamm — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 09:50:49 +0000

My wife and I have trouble with number two. If one of us does most of the chores one day, there’s almost an expectation that the other will catch up the next day. If the partner doesn’t notice the imbalance because they were, say, busy with the kids, then that can result in something unpleasant for all.

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