Comments on: the common thread in your bad jobs is YOU http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/ wealth, work and life success Thu, 18 Mar 2010 04:30:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: RT Wolf http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-29714 RT Wolf Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:51:23 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-29714 I'm learning a little about buddhism and one of the key things that they mention is that things or environments or situations can not bring you happiness or fulfillment, because things or situations, etc do not have inherent existence, their meaning to you is entirely in your own consciousness. That is, you bring happiness to things/situations/etc, not the other way around, and you can learn to be happy regardless of the situation you find yourself in. You will still have preferences but your happiness will not depend on your situation. It's a liberating feeling.<br><br>Another thing, I picked up from Your Money or Your Life (excellent book) is that we expect a lot from our jobs, including everything from security and safety to money to deep, life-long fulfillment to challenge to no stress. One of the key things the book does is to suggest that perhaps looking for fulfillment or happiness in a job is a bad approach to trying to find fulfillment or happiness. 4-Hour Work week also talks about that.<br><br>plonkee, you might be interested in reading Steve Pavlina's site. Start here:<br><br><a href="http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/courage-to-live-consciously.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/courage-to...</a> I'm learning a little about buddhism and one of the key things that they mention is that things or environments or situations can not bring you happiness or fulfillment, because things or situations, etc do not have inherent existence, their meaning to you is entirely in your own consciousness. That is, you bring happiness to things/situations/etc, not the other way around, and you can learn to be happy regardless of the situation you find yourself in. You will still have preferences but your happiness will not depend on your situation. It's a liberating feeling.

Another thing, I picked up from Your Money or Your Life (excellent book) is that we expect a lot from our jobs, including everything from security and safety to money to deep, life-long fulfillment to challenge to no stress. One of the key things the book does is to suggest that perhaps looking for fulfillment or happiness in a job is a bad approach to trying to find fulfillment or happiness. 4-Hour Work week also talks about that.

plonkee, you might be interested in reading Steve Pavlina's site. Start here:

http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/courage-to...

]]> By: RT Wolf http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-26522 RT Wolf Mon, 01 Dec 2008 13:51:23 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-26522 I'm learning a little about buddhism and one of the key things that they mention is that things or environments or situations can not bring you happiness or fulfillment, because things or situations, etc do not have inherent existence, their meaning to you is entirely in your own consciousness. That is, you bring happiness to things/situations/etc, not the other way around, and you can learn to be happy regardless of the situation you find yourself in. You will still have preferences but your happiness will not depend on your situation. It's a liberating feeling.<br><br>Another thing, I picked up from Your Money or Your Life (excellent book) is that we expect a lot from our jobs, including everything from security and safety to money to deep, life-long fulfillment to challenge to no stress. One of the key things the book does is to suggest that perhaps looking for fulfillment or happiness in a job is a bad approach to trying to find fulfillment or happiness. 4-Hour Work week also talks about that.<br><br>plonkee, you might be interested in reading Steve Pavlina's site. Start here:<br><br><a href="http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/courage-to-live-consciously.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/courage-to...</a> I'm learning a little about buddhism and one of the key things that they mention is that things or environments or situations can not bring you happiness or fulfillment, because things or situations, etc do not have inherent existence, their meaning to you is entirely in your own consciousness. That is, you bring happiness to things/situations/etc, not the other way around, and you can learn to be happy regardless of the situation you find yourself in. You will still have preferences but your happiness will not depend on your situation. It's a liberating feeling.

Another thing, I picked up from Your Money or Your Life (excellent book) is that we expect a lot from our jobs, including everything from security and safety to money to deep, life-long fulfillment to challenge to no stress. One of the key things the book does is to suggest that perhaps looking for fulfillment or happiness in a job is a bad approach to trying to find fulfillment or happiness. 4-Hour Work week also talks about that.

plonkee, you might be interested in reading Steve Pavlina's site. Start here:

http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/courage-to...

]]> By: bripblap http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25569 bripblap Sun, 07 Sep 2008 23:41:15 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25569 But asithi, at the risk of throwing gas on the fire here, how much of this type of situation is being perpetuated by putting up with it? I have been horrified throughout my working career by the way in which women remained silent or put up with the negative situations. then again, men put up with them, too, so it's probably just human nature. But asithi, at the risk of throwing gas on the fire here, how much of this type of situation is being perpetuated by putting up with it? I have been horrified throughout my working career by the way in which women remained silent or put up with the negative situations. then again, men put up with them, too, so it's probably just human nature.

]]> By: asithi http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25559 asithi Sun, 07 Sep 2008 17:06:46 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25559 I think sometimes guys are clueless this is how some women feel about the work environment. Being a civil engineer, I have been in situations where I am the only female in the group. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable, especially out in the field compared to working in the office. I am not a girly girl by any means, but it is easier for the guys to go water a tree than me. <br><br>Two weeks ago, I had this discussion with another young engineer. I was telling him how I am anxious about my upcoming rotation next year to the construction office since I know I will once again be the only female in the entire group. Of course, he did not get it - saying that he does not look at female engineer as being any different than a male. Yeah well, he has also not earn less than a female while doing more work. <br><br>But one thing I learned is that I always need to ask for more because I know I will end up getting less, which will then be what the guys are getting. In general though, this type of gender bias is very subtle in the work place. I think sometimes guys are clueless this is how some women feel about the work environment. Being a civil engineer, I have been in situations where I am the only female in the group. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable, especially out in the field compared to working in the office. I am not a girly girl by any means, but it is easier for the guys to go water a tree than me.

Two weeks ago, I had this discussion with another young engineer. I was telling him how I am anxious about my upcoming rotation next year to the construction office since I know I will once again be the only female in the entire group. Of course, he did not get it – saying that he does not look at female engineer as being any different than a male. Yeah well, he has also not earn less than a female while doing more work.

But one thing I learned is that I always need to ask for more because I know I will end up getting less, which will then be what the guys are getting. In general though, this type of gender bias is very subtle in the work place.

]]> By: Shadox http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25548 Shadox Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:29:39 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25548 That's good advice, but of course, it could also be that you are not the kind of person that can be excited by your work long term, and that you require periodic change. Those creatures are known to exist. That's good advice, but of course, it could also be that you are not the kind of person that can be excited by your work long term, and that you require periodic change. Those creatures are known to exist.

]]> By: Curmudgeon http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25545 Curmudgeon Fri, 05 Sep 2008 17:18:21 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25545 Don't worry, Bubelah. I am a white male, and I was never one of the Guys, either. Maybe it has something to do with golf. Don't worry, Bubelah. I am a white male, and I was never one of the Guys, either. Maybe it has something to do with golf.

]]> By: bubelah http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25544 bubelah Fri, 05 Sep 2008 16:44:33 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25544 You are right to some extent. Being a woman is something I cannot change. But I never was one of the Guys, was never in the "boys club" and couldn't curse my way up, no matter how talented I was. Being a woman is being a minority. You are right to some extent. Being a woman is something I cannot change. But I never was one of the Guys, was never in the “boys club” and couldn't curse my way up, no matter how talented I was. Being a woman is being a minority.

]]> By: deepali http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25543 deepali Fri, 05 Sep 2008 15:42:42 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25543 wow, timely. wow, timely.

]]> By: Victor http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25541 Victor Fri, 05 Sep 2008 13:22:01 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25541 I agree with the article on attitude an perception of the job. One aspect not mentioned is if people harbor racist views and it comes out wherever you go. Being a minority religion in the US will get you this treatment and the christian majority will let it slide. Found that in more than one job I worked. I enjoyed the work, just the people sucked. I agree with the article on attitude an perception of the job. One aspect not mentioned is if people harbor racist views and it comes out wherever you go. Being a minority religion in the US will get you this treatment and the christian majority will let it slide. Found that in more than one job I worked. I enjoyed the work, just the people sucked.

]]> By: plonkee http://www.bripblap.com/2008/the-common-thread-in-your-bad-jobs-is-you/comment-page-1/#comment-25533 plonkee Fri, 05 Sep 2008 10:50:45 +0000 http://www.bripblap.com/?p=561#comment-25533 Yes, I think this is true.<br><br>It's actually not really a work related thing, but I've noticed that everything I do is rubbish. I don't seem to be able to exploit the same opportunities that everyone else can. I don't win. I have friends, but I'm not as popular as other people. People don't listen when I talk.<br><br>I have known for a while that the common thread is me, I just don't know how to fix it. Yes, I think this is true.

It's actually not really a work related thing, but I've noticed that everything I do is rubbish. I don't seem to be able to exploit the same opportunities that everyone else can. I don't win. I have friends, but I'm not as popular as other people. People don't listen when I talk.

I have known for a while that the common thread is me, I just don't know how to fix it.

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